In building confidence, there is no substitute for action. There are no quick solutions, magic wands or pills you can take to make you confident. It comes from your continued action and motivation to push yourself beyond your comfort zone.
On the subject of your comfort zone… even the most confident people have a comfort zone. They are simply used to operating slightly outside this comfort zone and they realise that in that place is the only true freedom from fear and worry. Whilst you remain firmly in your comfort zone, you are living in fear and worry. When you push through, you overcome your fears and worries and they don’t bother you anymore.
Your only job is to move – it doesn’t really matter whether you go forwards, backwards, up, down, left, right… just as long as you don’t stand still. If you get out of the habit of taking actions and moving in your life, then you stagnate and it becomes very difficult to start to move again.
If you’re doing something and you find that it’s taking you in a different direction to the one in which you wanted to go, then you can take a look at that to see if this new direction is better. If not, then it doesn’t take much to make a few changes and head off the right way again. If you stop, then it takes an extraordinary effort to start up again. In fact, you don’t bother – it gets marked as a failure and that’s the end of that.
Do yourself a massive favour right now. Answer this question…
What is it that I am not doing, that will move me towards my goals and take me away from this place of fear to one of freedom and confidence?
Now, understand that taking these actions might be difficult, painful or uncomfortable. However, remember how awful it is to live life as you currently do. Which is better? Some short term pain leading you to freedom, confidence and peace? Or a lifetime spent wallowing in the discomfort you currently feel?
It’s pretty clear to me which option to pick, but in the end it’s your choice. Remember that doing nothing, is still a choice – one that usually leads to a victim mentality.
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