Improve your Confidence Easily
If you’re here to find an article about how to improve your confidence without having to do anything, then I’m pretty sure you’ll be disappointed! There’s nothing that can be achieved without changing the things that you do in your life! I get asked time and time again how to build confidence and the bottom line is that there’s only one way. Taking deliberate action is the only way to improve your confidence.
If you can get into the habit of taking of facing your fears, then gradually you will begin to build confidence in yourself and your ability to do things that are outside of your comfort zone. Courage is the thing you need, true confidence is knowing that you can tap into your courage whenever you need it.
So you can’t improve your confidence without doing anything different?
You aren’t going to wake up one morning and suddenly feel like you can go and do these things! You can certainly learn some tricks, techniques and other useful information that will help you, but ultimately, you have to go out and do these things! There are so many situations where you might want improved confidence, for example:
presentations- dating
- making friends
- talking with people you don’t know
- interviews
- speaking up/expressing your truth
Practice means getting it wrong…
An inevitable part of improving your confidence is getting it wrong. The good news is, sometimes you’ll get it right straight way and if not, then it’s never as bad as you think and if you’ll learn something from the experience, the next time you’ll be stronger and more capable.
So, remember that the longer you put it off, the longer it takes to get rid of that unpleasant feeling you get every time you think about doing it. If you are serious about become someone who can improve your confidence, then get on and do the things you don’t feel like doing!
It is really hard to build self-confidence especially if you have inferiority complex. The feeling of unease can definitely give you trouble in any types of activities. I personally don’t like public speaking and my voice always tremble whenever I make a speech. But through time and experience of several speaking sessions, I developed my self-confidence.
My fear of getting noticed doesn’t bother me anymore. Although I still feel some strange feeling from time to time, over all I can say that I overcome my own shortcomings.
Nice article and thanks for sharing…
Noah
Thanks for your comments Noah.
In the past I always struggled with confidence until I realized that I didn’t need to “become” confident but rather transcend the ego that had made me believe I wasn’t good enough. When you’re able to do away with the ego, a confident, joyous state of being is all that remains
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Hi Briddick,
That’s a wonderful way to describe what confidence really is! Most people strive and strive to have more confidence… when they realise that it’s just that they are in their own way, they discover that the confidence has been there all along!
Thanks, Dan
thanks Dan. Cheers. Yea it took me a long time of first trying to add to myself instead of subtracting the false beliefs that I wasnt good enough. Happy holidays
-Brid
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Hi Brid, that’s a common experience!
I know this. I have always wanted to build my confidence because I always saw a beautiful girl in the train which I take every day, but still I wanted to talk to her but I never dared to because all her friends were around and talking with her. One day I thought ok just do it and I did and now we are very good friends. Great article!
Hi Peter,
Thanks for your comment and good luck with your on-going quest for love!
Exactly! Practise means getting it wrong. Many people don’t understand this at all. They behave like kids who want to learn how to do something instantly. Nothing works like that. The more we get it wrong, the more we know what not to do next time.
I always say that confidence building is a journey. You have to take steps in order to get there. Sometimes steps can be big ones, but usually, its the tiny steps that get you there.
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Thanks Anne for your comment. The tiny steps are so often the ones… often they are so small you fail to see them!
I have a little trick that helps me out. If I’m doing something in a public setting (most recently I “called” my first auction) I just tell the crowd that I’m nervous and sort of make a joke out of it. They know I’m serious that I’m nervous, but just laying that on the table seems to remove the tension and make everyone smile. I do the same when speaking in front of a group. I dunno works for me, thought I’d throw it out there
Thanks Dan, by the way, we must be cousins or something?
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Hi Dan,
Thanks for your comment here. That’s a great tip for everyone! However, there are two ways of doing this… one is to elicit sympathy and that will completely undermine any credibility you might have. The second is to do it from a genuine and truthful, “I’m showing up and I’m real and I’m human” angle. In anything you do in life, if you can show up and give people a genuine feel for you, it helps to connect you with your audience and them with you.
Its really hard to get away from your comfort zone sometimes and that’s what I’ve experienced in the past few years. I’ve been in this company where they don’t offer career growth for contractual employees like me so I keep on saying I’ll leave and apply to other companies that offers salary higher than I was receiving by that time. But I’ve never done it because I feel I lack confidence because I’m thinking that it’ll just be a waste of time if I am not accepted. Fortunately, a twist of events came up and now I am happy to be with my family and just working home based. I was able to overcome, even for a little bit, the fear that I was experiencing a year ago and that is facing and talking to clients. Thanks for sharing your thoughts about confidence, this is a great post.
Hi Patricia, people who have their comfort zone stripped from them are forced to grow and to find the courage to move their life forward. It’s a simple choice between going on or fading away. Although at the time it feels pretty hard, most people describe it as a fortunate twist of events!
This is what I’ve got to practice even if I’m working at home because I’m becoming an anti-social. Thanks for sharing this.
That’s a common thing I hear from people who work from home! Thanks Monica.
I really wanted to boost my confidence especially in applying for a job or meeting new friends or going to a party or any crowded events/place. I know there’s fear inside of me that blocks me from doing anything I want.
Until now, I still have no courage to face my fears and to have confidence. Maybe, not sure, i learned to accept myself as I am, and have adjusted things the way I am.
I am already contented for what I am now w/ less confidence ^.^
Hi Gregg,
I sounds as though you have given up on your ability to grow and to be more than you are already, which I feel sad about.
Accepting yourself as you are, in my opinion, shouldn’t mean that you are saying that this is the only way I can be. The “I am” you refer to can be different in each and every moment. There is no fixed state of being you… you can work at being whatever you want to be!