There is something really important to understand about aggressive people… they are simply over compensating for a lack of self-control. You see, it’s a myth that confidence creates arrogance, in fact, confidence and arrogance are so different that they cannot exist together.
Aggressive people seek to make people bow to their will because they are constantly craving control and they believe that if they can control people, they will feel in control. The sad reality is that these people can never be in control because the only control you can truly have is over yourself. If you get angry, shout or bully others, then you are not in control of yourself or your life.
This helps you, because knowing this, it is easy to understand that aggressive people are only behaving this way because they are out of control. Take a little time to think about how it must be to live your life this way – feeling out of control and being angry much of the time. Not a pleasant experience at all. When I first understood this, I couldn’t help but to feel a little sorry for these people.
Sometimes, simply taking the time to reach out to these people and find a way to help them is all it takes to create a good relationship with them. Sometimes, you’ll have to politely point out to them that they seem angry, which usually helps them to calm down. Whatever the case, remember that it’s not about you, it simply shows that they feel insecure and are trying to control you to have some sense of security for themselves. While ever they behave in this way, they are never going to have any control at all.
Self Confidence is being happy in your skin,.Arrogance is when your happy outside your skin, which is when people think oh im better than everyone else in this room.
Thanks for this image – a great way of putting it.
I cannot agree more with the fact that arrogance and confidence are entirely two different things. People often mistake them for each other when in actuality – you said it – they cannot exist with together! Simply put along the lines of the blog post, arrogance is when you’re out of control and confidence is when you’re in control. You can just ignore aggressive people because they’re really don’t have any control over anything.
Quite right! Thanks for the comment.
If you are aggressive, you can only find some trouble. People will feel that you are always controlling them which is not good because they have their own freedom to do whatever they want as well. If you want to get along with others, you need to change this attitude.
Aggressive people always seem to get the best of things… although that’s only our perspective looking in. They are chewed up, misunderstood and terrified inside. I don’t think I could live life that way.